How to tell your friend they are dating a loser
My theory is that in the beginning, most women don’t know the guy is a deadbeat loser.
He probably is reasonably attractive and tells a good story about his current situation and his ambitions.
Just five years ago, the news that a friend was about to embark on a bad-idea relationship with an utter prat would have been cause for exasperation, rather than concern.
I might have rolled my eyes a few times and then left them to get on with it, safe in the knowledge she’d emerge into the light, blinking, in eight months time, contrite and full of remorse, blocking him on Facebook with one hand while downing a conciliatory shot of tequila with the other.
I have two very sweet girlfriends who are dating total losers.
My one friend is dating a total slacker video-game-playing guy who doesn't help out around the house, doesn't ever do anything sweet or thoughtful, would rather eat ramen than lift a finger to cook a meal together, etc. My other friend is dating someone far far below her intelligence/attractiveness level.
But the fact is, we make just as many crap decisions with regards to relationships when we get older.
The only difference is, when we get older, those crap decisions tend to stick, and everything gets a bit more permanent.
Look for an open door to discuss the dating relationship and what you see that may be harmful.
"You guys are just meant to be " "he’s the one, I can just feel it", "you’re just such a perfect fit". You even have to say this if you think they’re the most unlikely couple since Liz Hurley and Shane Warne, and even if you hate him so much you spent the first 18 months of their relationship walking out of the room every time his name was mentioned.
I suspect, on a level, you will always slightly hate your absolute closest friend’s significant other.
I have managed to keep my mouth shut about the two unlikeable boys, but have started to feel guilty that I never invite them along.
When I have a party or a dinner, I'll extend the invite to the girls, but won't necessarily encourage them to invite their beaus. For example, my college friend was dating a guy who was SO annoying to everyone but her.What is it about non-ideal situations which makes us keep carrying on, doing nothing to change?